On Wednesday, Lastech and I spent the day in the Marin Headlands. It was a foggy, but beautiful day. I only wish it had ended that way. On the way home, we stopped to take a few pictures of the Golden Gate Bridge. I had taken several pictures when I heard the Coast Guard helicopter. I watched it fly under the bridge and it was at that point that I saw the flare on the water.
When someone jumps, a flare is dropped on the water to show the searchers the direction of the tide. Someone lost a friend, a lover, or a family member that day. It was a painful reminder that I’ve lost two friends to suicide. This post is dedicated to Candy and Dora. It’s too late for them, but not for others.
Disclaimer: jellybeansofdoom is not associated with the Suicide Prevention Lifeline. We deeply appreciate what they do.
To reach the Suicide Prevention Lifeline, call 1-800-273-8255. For Veterans, to reach the Veterans crisis Line, call 1-800-273-8255 and press 1. If you are in distress or a friend or family member of someone who is, then please call the number.
Do you know someone who may need help? According to the Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
The following signs may mean someone is at risk for suicide. The risk of suicide is greater if a behavior is new or has increased and if it seems related to a painful event, loss, or change. If you or someone you know exhibits any of these signs, seek help as soon as possible by calling the Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
- Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves.
- Looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online or buying a gun
- Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
- Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
- Talking about being a burden to others.
- Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
- Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
- Sleeping too little or too much.
- Withdrawing or isolating themselves.
- Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
- Displaying extreme mood swings.
The Lifeline is there for anyone. If you are in distress call them. If you have lost someone to suicide and need help then call them. Don’t suffer alone.
Please please please seek help if you need it. The ribbon will take you to the Lifeline.
What a wonderful topic to educate people about! Mental health is so often overlooked and under funded. Here in New Brunswick, Canada, all we have to offer suicidal people is a hotline and a 2 year waiting list for a Psychiatrist, or you can have yourself commited….not really fabulous options if you have depression. Thank goodness for the hotline but people need to know how much more we could be doing for mental health. Thank you for helping spread the word!
Nofur, you have hit the nail on the head. Mental health is a very important issue. It’s at the root of so many problems and yet it’s held to be a shameful thing. That’s stupid. We don’t belittle people who get the flu. We shouldn’t belittle those who have mental health issues. No one should EVER have to feel ashamed that they are bipolar, depressed or (name any other mental health issue). You’re one smart kitty Nofur.
One of the most revealing descriptions of what it is like, rather than what depression is from the clinical standpoint, remains William Styron’s “darkness visible: a memoir of madness”. He wrote the essay from a lecture he made on the topic at John Hopkins’ school of medicine.
I read it about fifteen years ago and found it offers insights rarely found elsewhere, especially since they were borne from his experience. I can’t recommend it enough.
I have lost two nephews to suicide. One, Matthew, bought a bus ticket to San Francisco and jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge a year ago. Nobody, family or friends, saw it coming either time. In Matt’s case, neither did mental health professionals. While I appreciate the efforts of suicide prevention groups I have found little evidence they are effective. We need better screening tools and treatments.
Hugs and condolences. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. The suicide prevention groups aren’t perfect, I agree. They do provide a lot of good information though. I figure if they can save even one, it’s better than none.